Oh, hell, there’s even a damn song about it, or two. But here’s the truth…
BREAKING UP ISN’T HARD TO DO!*
It’s not the actual breaking up that challenges us, that breaks us down. It’s the lead up and aftermath. It’s the fear of, “Oh, fuck…
Was this all a mistake?
Did I waste my time?
How did I get here?
What have I missed?
Am I a bad person?
What will people think?
Will I still be liked?
Will I still be lovable?
What if I regret this move?
What if there’s nothing better?
What if the next one turns out just like this?
What if he/she/it is better without me? Or just better than me?
What if I’m alone?
But what would happen if we just TRUSTED OUR GUT? What would happen if we didn’t ask all those questions coated in fear?
What if we just LET GO?
What if we just said, “THANK YOU”? Thank you.
THANK YOU FOR:
the growing pains
the lessons learned
the teaching opportunities
the laughter (there’s always some, at some point)
the tears (they nourish the eyes, which let us see)
the clarity for which he/she/it was a catalyst
the chance to change
“Your life does not get better by chance, it gets better by change. ” – Jim Rohn
I recently broke up with someone. The opportunity to say “thank you” and “goodbye” has been such a gift. To whom, or what, have you recently had an opportunity to say “thank you” and “goodbye,” and how has the change made your life better?
*Getting broken up with is slightly more complicated. I’ll touch on that some other time, but a lot of the above still holds true! xo