Comments on: Pleasure Bouquets: By Any Other Name

By: emmajames

emmajames — Fri, 19 Jun 2009 06:07:22 +0000

Lacochran: And I like it!

Molly: Oh goodness, I didn’t even get into the whole nickname thing. Thanks for the reminder. That’ll have to be another post – ha!

Egan: Yep, unique is always good. As long as it’s pronounceable.

Jen: Uh-oh. I’m sorta stuck on Jen, since I know you through your blog. Hope you’re cool with that…

JP: I just may start calling you Turkish from now on. Beware!

C&S: I really appreciate your perspective! And now I’m curious about what line of work you’re in. I don’t think I’ve read any posts where you mention it. Hmmm…

By: Complex and Searching

Complex and Searching — Tue, 16 Jun 2009 18:07:52 +0000

I don’t think we really notice the power of a name. After the “I”/”me”, it is the most common way we think of ourselves. It is how we identify ourselves. It is at the core of how we define who we are. If we were to strip off everything else, we would find our true name.

It took me a very long time to find my true name. My given name is both common and uncommon and far back in the alphabet, so I mostly hated it. The first step in really accepting who I am was to accept and embrace my own name. Because of that, I chose to keep my name when I married. And for experiment’s sake, when D asked, I allowed him to call me by the nickname my mother named me for, even tho I shed it 20+ years ago.

I have chosen other names for myself to reflect activities and hobbies. This one was given to me by my friends, thru a Johari window. Complex was my biggest blind spot and Searching was the most common attribute know between me and my friends.

In my work, we also have a culture of bestowing nicknames. It is a great honor to earn one of these, a mark of status. There are usually stories that go with it.

Just remember what Dale Carnegie once said: Remember that a person’s name is to that person the sweetest and most
important sound in any language.
~CaS

Complex and Searching’s last blog post..Social Isolation and Loneliness; Outlets and Connections in Our Daily Lives

By: justjp

justjp — Tue, 16 Jun 2009 17:39:06 +0000

I keep mine separated due to having 2 very different lives. Though, I would change my first name to Turkish. It just sounds awesome. justjp’s last blog post..Fun with a Bedazzler

By: Jen on the Edge

Jen on the Edge — Mon, 15 Jun 2009 17:48:05 +0000

I am most definitely a Jennifer and that's how I introduce myself to people. Since I am Jen on my blog, that's what a lot of people call me now, even though it really started off as my husband's nickname for me. I really didn't think of the long-term ramifications of that one and how I'd feel if total strangers were to call me Jen. Jen on the Edge’s last blog post..The Martha strikes again

By: egan

egan — Mon, 15 Jun 2009 07:25:03 +0000

Great topic, one I will have to come back to since I'm getting all twitchy. That means it's bed time and i still have laundry to fold. As if you need to know this. Take care and don't sweat the name thing. I do love my name, I got a winner. egan’s last blog post..World in Her Eyes

By: molly

molly — Mon, 15 Jun 2009 04:02:10 +0000

I think I am whole-heartedly a molly, but what else would I be, right? I've always liked my name, so I know that has a lot to do with it. But. I always wanted a nickname when I was younger. I always felt mine were boring. Now I just like the names that come out when different people get to know me. molly’s last blog post..slacker sunday: sun!

By: lacochran

lacochran — Sun, 14 Jun 2009 15:40:11 +0000

Well, the WaPo Express thinks I’m a man. Maybe because the name I’ve put on my blog is confusing to pronounce. Maybe because I went with initials and my last name (is that a guy thing traditionally?) I dunno. I’m sticking with my blog name for now, Em.

lacochran’s last blog post.."Soylent green is people!"