Pleasure Bouquets: Compliments

It’s amazing how a little flattery from an unexpected source can change the course of my day. Now, I’m not talking about the whistle and honk from the guy in the Pinto at the red light, or the string of Spanish expletives provided by dudes loitering down the street under tennis shoes on a wire. I’m not even talking about sexual dynamic compliments. A compliment from anyone, regardless of gender, age, relation or sexual orientation, is a gift. It doesn’t even have to be spoken. An appreciative smile or nod will do. The joy, shock and, frequently, shyness that comes over the receiver’s face – whether stranger or loved one, co-worker or friend – is awesome to behold. I can actually see how I’ve lightened a person’s day by noticing something as little as the color of their shoes, their new haircut, or the salient point they presented in a morning meeting. And I know what they’re feeling. When unsolicited and sincere, compliments always give me a little jolt of pleasure. The challenge is to accept them. Without qualification.

Compliments

So, compliment someone today. Just a little smile will do. And next time someone compliments you, say “thank you.” Period.

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