Middle Man
Have you ever found yourself stuck in the middle of a particularly awkward dynamic, and unable to extricate yourself? Whether it is between two friends, a romantic pairing or warring coworkers, I frequently find myself playing the unwitting, unrequested and often unrewarding role of middle man. I am a consummate Devil’s Advocate, able to anticipate both sides of an issue and articulate both sides of an argument. And I must admit, I do get some perverse pleasure from playing the part. My erstwhile skill makes me the perfect casting choice for an annoying Switzerland, able to point out flaws in any argument and silver linings in every setback. Sometimes, however, I wish I didn’t empathize with others quite so much. I wish I could filter the world better. I wish I could solve my own problems as quickly and easily as I can solve those of others.
Maybe it’s time to retire the middle man persona once and for all, let others clean up their own messes and craft a new role for myself. What else, I wonder, is there to play? I hope I have a cool co-star.
lacochran
/ March 29, 2009If nothing else, changing your behavior from the usual may surprise the people around you into acting differently.
lacochran’s last blog post.."She likes to party all the time" –Eddie Murphy
justjp
/ March 30, 2009A change in behavior does throw people off and is much needed at times. BTW: I love the flowers, it made me smile.
justjp’s last blog post..FYOTD
egan
/ March 30, 2009I play this same role often and sometimes it’s wildly unpopular. Especially if you’re supporting a rather unpopular guy like last season’s Bachelor. Yeah, I went there.
egan’s last blog post..Brushed Back
LiLu
/ March 30, 2009I’ve only recently started to rebel against playing this role. It’s just too draining… maybe I’m getting old, but I just can’t do it anymore.
LiLu’s last blog post..I’m in a Giving Mood. The Xmas Spirit, You Could Say…
Kat
/ April 3, 2009I can’t say that I’ve been in your shoes, but like others have said…a change in behavior can be fun
I will say, I’m loving those flowers. So pretty.
Kat’s last blog post..Do You Know the Way to San Jose?
emmajames
/ April 5, 2009Lacochran: We shall see. People tend to react strangely to change. It’s uncomfortable not just for the changee but for others as well. Will keep you posted!
JP: Yea! My job is done.
Egan: You’re just a rabble-rouser, that’s what you are! And love ya for it
LiLu: Yep, it’s age. One of the perks.
Kat: Thanks! Most of the credit goes to Trader Joe’s. Best, most reasonably priced flowers, in my book.